21 Aug Al-Anon – Healing For Families
A MOTHER’S COURAGE TO SAY “NO”
When I first came to Al‑Anon, I felt as though I had finally found a group of people who really understood my struggle. It was such a relief to know they understood my emotional language, not just intellectually, but experientially as well. I felt heard, and never judged. I was encouraged to begin working the Steps and find a Sponsor. It was a great place to start. I felt I had a strong relationship with my Higher Power, and as I began working Step One, that miracle of getting the guidance I needed came to me one day. My daughter, who desperately wanted to come home to live with me after treatment, simply did not understand why my answer was “no.”
Taking it personally, she wanted to know why I didn’t love her anymore. As I took the time to wait for the right answer (as I had heard others say in meetings), it was as if the words were put into my mouth, “Oh no, you have it all wrong, it is because I love you that I have made this decision. Living together has caused great resentment for me, and I never want to resent you again.” Taking my cue from others in the program who encouraged me to love, understand, and respect the alcoholic, I also said, “I have faith and trust that you can take good care of yourself.” It was as if it all made sense to both of us.
Today, we have a great relationship, and mutual respect has grown tremendously. I thank my Higher Power for Al‑Anon. The wisdom, support, and love that I get are amazing. Today, I know I can detach lovingly and safely, maintain a healthy relationship, and respect myself and others as the unique people they were created to be.
By Diana R.
Al-Anon is a source of strength and hope for family members of alcoholics. We strongly encourage you to reach out to other families in your local area. The change in attitude acquired by participating in Al-Anon meetings will aid your recovery process while your whether your loved one is engaged in his sobriety or not.
Al-Anon can help a parent find contentment and happiness whether or not their son is drinking. Unfortunately, not every everyone achieves long-term sobriety. Getting involved in the house’s parent support system and the Al-Anon fellowship can help you through good and bad times. You do not have to face your challenges alone. The Al-Anon fellowship will always be there for support and to give you the tools necessary to deal with a family member who is suffering from the disease of alcoholism.
Check out these Al-Anon resources for information about the program and meeting locations:
San Diego County Al-Anon Info Office
Mama’s and Papa’s Meeting
Wednesdays – 8:00pm
Scripps Treatment Center
9896 Genesee Ave.
Al-Anon Family Groups