sober living Tag

When it seemed clear that our son was using drugs, we had few resources for understanding how profound the problem was. At first, it seemed a matter of recreational use and thus could be discounted as a kind of pervasive cultural practice. As we became aware that he was more deeply involved, we found new narratives to explain and rationalize his behavior.

Many family members of alcoholics will do anything to help out. Offering a place to stay or loaning money are a few examples of the ways loving families try to show support. But when is the line from supporting to enabling crossed?

The road to recovery for me has been a long one. I was sixteen the first time I tried to get sober and twenty-five when I entered rehab this last time.

At the moment of birth you look into your child’s eyes and make it your life’s work to provide a perfect life for them.  They learn to walk, to talk, to run, to play and then start school. Never in my life plan for my kid, did the concept that he would be a drug addict, ever enter my mind. 

When thinking of drug addiction, the obvious problem that comes to mind is drugs. Addiction is often thought of as a chemical response to repeated exposure to substances that can cause physical dependence. But could the real problem behind drug addiction be the individual, not the drugs?

I'm tense in my therapist's office as we listen to the ringtone over the speaker until a voice answers.

"Hey mom," I choke,"I relapsed again."

July 19th 2014, after an enjoyable day with my friends at the lake, I arrive home to be greeted by two cops, an ambulance, and a fire emergency vehicle. The first thoughts to emerge in my head were that my brother, Tyler, was dead or he had hurt my mother. As I urgently ran up the sidewalk, I passed my uncle who sadly stated, “It’s your brother and its bad, find your mom.”

Having to face the decision to get sober and commit to a life of early recovery at the age of 17 is NOT the dream of every young teenager. At a time when experimentation and being adventurous is the norm, that was exactly the decision I had to make in order to change my life.

Sober livings have not always been around and neither were drug rehabs. But when the recovery industry started getting larger and larger over the past few decades, the need for an interim environment between the rehab and a patient returning to their former lives grew to be more of a necessity.

There is an unfortunate misunderstanding about addiction and alcoholism that is prevalent in modern society. The misconception a person’s decisions revolving around drugs and alcohol are derived from the substances themselves, and that 30, 60, or 90 days at a rehab can help abate this issue, even solving it completely. Fortunately or unfortunately, this is simply not the case.