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The holidays are a time of giving. It is a time where we try to be just a little better to those around us. As all of us go through life, we grow more and more busy all the time. As a kid I always loved the holidays, getting out of school for a few weeks, all the food, the trips that were taken and of course, all the presents. The years went on and I really started to establish a love for the holidays. After addiction treatment though, the Spirit of Giving really kicked in and this became my favorite time of year.

Ever since I was a kid, the holidays for me were always my favorite time of the year. I loved the weather, the presents and the time off of school. When I think of my perspective growing up it was always about me and what I wanted, how I didn’t have to go to school for two weeks. I never took the chance to look at how I had been given so much from my family my whole life and that after I was a kid I started to have the ability to make it up to my family.

The holiday season can be a particularly difficult time for those in recovery and for their families. During this time of year everyone has high expectations, busier schedules and there are increased social gatherings and travel. People in recovery are often distracted during this time of year and attend fewer Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and parents may be attending less Al-Anon meetings.

As an active Alcoholic the holidays were the best part of the year. They marked a time when I was going to be given all of the things I did not deserve. Not only did it mean that I was going to receive gifts from my family, it meant that I was going to be giving myself gifts as well. In the form of feeding my addiction. While everyone else was focused on others and the spirit of giving, all I could think of is myself.

Now that I am starting to get a little bit of time sober under my belt, the days seem to go by a lot faster. I spend less time thinking about the struggle to stay sober, and more time thinking about what the next indicated action is to remain on the right path to recovery.

My previous holiday experiences over the last few years have been inadequate to say the least. Growing up I had viewed the holidays as time for family to come together and for traditions to be started.

The holiday season can be a joyful as well as a stressful time for anyone. For alcoholics and addicts in recovery though, it is commonly thought of as a time where addiction relapse happens more frequently. Is there any truth to this belief?

This Thanksgiving I am grateful for all I have been given from the 12 steps of AA. I have my family back, I am employable and for once, I am able to wake up in the morning and be comfortable in my own skin. I am happy with where my life is at.