12 Step Tag

12 step meetings are an important part of most sober individuals’ recovery programs. How many meetings should be attended each week though? Does a successful recovery schedule look any differently for someone that has just gotten sober, versus someone that has been sober for a longer amount of time?

When someone decides to take ahold of their drug or alcohol issue, a lot of programs lie at their feet. Whether through a rehabilitation program, fellowships such as AA or a church, or even replacement therapy, many people have tackled addiction in many different ways. One such way is SMART Recovery, which has become the second largest alcohol program next to AA, joining the ranks of other AA “alternatives” such as Moderation Management and Rational Recovery.

A New Life House father explains what the third step means to his personal program, breaking down the prayer and explaining the importance of letting go.

Moderation Management has been around for almost 20 years yet few have heard of it, as it is more or less shrouded in mystery. But lately the program has picked up traction again after a shaky and tumultuous past. What is moderation management and how does it differ from similar recovery programs?

Addiction treatment with the 12 Step approach can help any alcoholic at any time. In my opinion an addict can hit rock bottom when they decide to stop digging. Rock bottom is hitting a physically and or mentally low point in life where an individual feels broken and defeated, not able to go on living the same way anymore.

For most people relapse is or will be a part of their story. But it’s only a story, not a failure, and the script can be rewritten at anytime. Relapse carries a deep sense of shame with it. It touches every false belief we have ever had about ourselves: I knew it, I am a failure,” or, “I’ll never amount to anything,” or, “Other people deserve happiness, not me.” By getting out of the cycle of negative thinking – together - we can address our “relapse-mentality.”

Few things generate more controversy than the topic of 12-step programs and whether they effectively help people who suffer from addiction to drugs and alcohol quit their dependence on these substances. People love to hate on Alcoholics Anonymous, the oldest 12-step program and to date the most effective solution to recovery. 12-step programs are under-researched and widely misunderstood, by the public, by haters who have tried it with little or no results and even by it’s own members.

Addiction does not just wreak havoc on the addict - it leaves a trail moral wreckage in it's wake. In addiction we may steal, lie, cheat, and totally disregard the needs and emotions of the people around us. We may even purposefully dole out pain to others, wanting everyone else to be as miserable as we are. And then we get sober...and all of that wreckage and hurt and destruction we caused does not disappear just because we have stopped using. So what happens next? How do we start to repair the bridges we burned and the people we spurned?

Lois Wilson was born on the 4th of March 1891 and died on October 5th, 1988. She was the co-founder of Al-Anon, and the wife of Bill Wilson, the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous. Bill Wilson was her alcoholic qualifier for Al-Anon. They decided they wanted to be married before Bill went off to war. They were married in 1918 in New York City.