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A New Life House Mother Shares Her Story of Pride and Gratitude

A New Life House Mother Shares Her Story of Pride and Gratitude

 

Raising children can be a job in itself. Watching them grow is a gift and seeing them become successful is a reward that no one else can give you.

No one prepares you for motherhood and certainly, no one prepares you for the worst to come. The way I felt is the way I am sure anyone who watches their son go through something so damaging to their life would feel.

This journey started almost three years ago when we got a call from my older son that something was wrong with my son, and that we needed to come pick him up because he was not acting like himself. We took him to ER to find they weren’t sure what was going on with him. The helplessness I felt was the worst feeling I have ever experienced. What was wrong with my son? Was it all my fault? It never wavered my love and it never changed how I felt responsible for making sure my son is properly taken care of; no matter how much he hates me in the moment or how much he thinks it won’t help him. I signed up for motherhood and I have to stick to it no matter what life throws at me or at my child.

The hopelessness of seeing your child battle something he doesn’t remember; seeing him fight through unimaginable wars within himself not once, or twice, but three separate times can be the hardest thing to face as a mother. It can also be tiring and gruesome, but your own candle never burns out. A love a mother has for her child is just the same: a never ending candle that continues to burn despite all the turmoil it faces. Once we found this program, it was a huge relief and our shoulders were emptied of the constant fear that our child would continue to harm himself. The damage that alcohol and other substances have and how easily it takes over their life is something that we knew was over once we got him here. Only to find our son had left because he could not handle the pressure of giving up his addiction. We didn’t give him any options: he had to stay in the house. When this journey started, I felt like I was in hell, trying to figure out what I did wrong along the years. But, now I understand that it was something he had to overcome and it was part of the process. Another devastation and another bump in the road we would have

Once we found this program, it was a huge relief and our shoulders were emptied of the constant fear that our child would continue to harm himself. The damage that alcohol and other substances have and how easily it takes over their life is something that we knew was over once we got him here. Only to find our son had left because he could not handle the pressure of giving up his addiction. We didn’t give him any options: he had to stay in the house. When this journey started, I felt like I was in hell, trying to figure out what I did wrong along the years. But, now I understand that it was something he had to overcome and it was part of the process. Another devastation and another bump in the road we would have to face. Three months into the program, he wanted to leave again. He thought it was a waste of time since he was planning on continuing this toxic behavior. It wasn’t an option. He would have to stay the full 12 months. Of course, he wasn’t happy, but I knew not to take it personally. All that mattered was that he gets himself into a better place. Last year in March, Bret called to tell us Adil was not opening up and there was no point for us to waste their time and our money. We didn’t want him home for his own good, we knew, once again, that if he comes back it will start again.

Day after day, we saw an actual change in him. We did not feel like he was sneaking around or telling us what we wanted to hear. But, had it not been for all these steps and all these things we needed to go through, we would not have our sober son. We would not have been able to see him take on so much responsibility and turn into the amazing young man he is developing into. The amount of pride I feel as a mother, and as someone who has watched him grow all his life, is indescribable and I am forever grateful.

 

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