19 Dec Long Term Drug Treatment | New Life House
Long Term Drug Treatment Solutions, There Are No Quick Fixes
Long term alcohol and drug treatment centers teach recovering addicts that a long-lasting solution comes from a change within. We’re here to help explain how a psychic change is the key to unlocking the life you desire.
- The Long Term Solution for Addiction is a Psychic Change
- The “Quick Fix”
- Making the Change Within
- 12 Tips to Facilitate a Psychic Change
- The Only Way Out is Through
- The Shiny Promise of a Quick Fix or the Real Gold of Faith
The Long Term Solution for Addiction is a Psychic Change
Long term alcohol and drug addiction treatment cannot be found anywhere except within the recovering alcoholic or addict. However, it is not unnatural for most people who are struggling with alcoholism and drug addiction to seek a quick fix answer outside of them selves for an illness that has been years in the making. They will successfully blot out a chronicle of painful memories, isolation, shame, a separation from God, destroyed relationships, compromising values, broken families, interrupted education and ruined careers when the “quick fix” carrot is dangled before their eyes.
The “Quick Fix”
Quitting drinking and using drugs can be an incredibly painful undertaking. If there is any way to put off the pain for a later date, someone struggling with drug or alcohol addiction will probably do it. The attraction of quick-fix solutions is obvious: if the pain of an entire lifetime can be addressed, processed and forgotten in a 30-day term residential drug treatment program, if popping a pill will help your body not crave the drug you are addicted to, if following a rigorous dietary, detox, sweat lodge program will purge the chemicals from your system, or if the best-selling book from a new age guru will get you on the right track, then what is the harm? Surely recovery will follow! A lovely thought, but highly unlikely.
The only long-term alcohol and drug treatment solution for recovery from drugs and alcohol is a psychic change. How does a person in recovery get one of these psychic changes? Where can they buy it? Is there a book they read about it in? Can someone give it to them? How do they know they have it when they get it?
Making the Change Within
Stop Putting on a Front for Others
In the most basic terms: the best way to achieve a psychic change is to stop acting like an asshole and be kind to others. There is a commonality amongst people who continuously relapse. They are the ones who hold on to their image at all costs. They think, “I’m so gangster, I’m so dope.” But it’s the hidden nerd inside that will be their lifeline to recovery.
Addicts and alcoholics fight so hard not to be that uncomfortable, geeky, awkward person no one liked in school. They drink to cover it up, to be cool, so they won’t get hurt, so they don’t experience embarrassment. But it’s by allowing that persona to surface and shine that keeps someone sober. Accepting all the parts of one self, putting the image aside and being a genuinely nice person will lead an addict to a profound psychic change. And when they wake up one day and they no longer think, act or react the way that they used to when they were getting loaded…well, that’s the barometer that measures a true psychic change. There are rites of passage to go through, but it won’t be cheap or easy. Long term drug and alcohol treatment begins here.
Deal with the Pain of Addiction – Don’t Fight It
Addicts and alcoholics don’t like to feel pain, it’s one of the reasons they drink and use drugs in the first place. Speaking from my own experience and being witness to many others in long-term recovery, most people who become addicted to substances did so because it made them feel better. Pain is not a prerequisite for addiction but it is a fact that most addicts have experienced serious pain and trauma in childhood; there are also exceptions to this phenomenon. There are many people who become addicted to substances without childhood suffering, but pain is also a byproduct of this style of addiction. So either way you slice it, addiction is filled with pain.
A Psychic Change Requires a Psychic Solution
Because emotional pain is psychic in nature – psychic meaning of or pertaining to the soul or mind – the only thing that can change this pain is something that meets it on its own level – which is also psychic in nature. Most people fail to recognize that the issues that led them to drink did not happen overnight nor will they be resolved in a short space of time. They require specific actions that will uncover, discover and discard the stranglehold that these issues have over someone, causing them to seek relief in unhealthy actions and behaviors.
Continuing to push the pain aside, hiding it beneath a false bravado, fancy clothes, a new car, a pretend relationship or a ‘better than” attitude is a block which stands between the addict and honestly attaining real recovery.
12 Tips to Facilitate a Psychic Change
1. More God
First and foremost, a spiritual solution is the main ingredient in maintaining long-term sobriety and that means God. The closer someone gets to God the further away from image they are and this results in more happiness and freedom. The addict or alcoholic is used to being the one who calls the shots, the all-powerful one. When there is an internal knowing that we do not have all the answers, that no one goes through life alone, that we are not responsible for someone’s illness, that we don’t have the power to start and stop the waves rolling…we end the sense of separation that has kept us feeling alone and apart.
Having this connection provides the answers to the spiritual hunger that an addict has been looking for in a drug or a drink. There is a comfort that people with faith share and an acceptance that whatever comes to us, we can bear. When we have a shift within that rocks us to our core, and a profound revelation that there is much more to this life that we can imagine, we will be changed at the very core of our being.
2. More Meditation
People think they meditate but many people I know give it a good 15 to 20 minutes a day for a month or so, and then fall off and are hovering around 0. Meditation to someone with a substance abuse disorder is like food to a starving man. Years of ingesting chemicals, alters the way the body functions and meditation puts it back on track. Meditation reduces stress, improves concentration, encourages a healthy lifestyle, increases happiness and acceptance, slows ageing and benefits cardiovascular and immune health.
3. More Therapy
Therapy is a useful tool in getting to the root of problems that do not appear to be getting better after putting down the drugs and alcohol. Being able to open up with a professional is especially beneficial for someone who has experienced trauma. Some of the benefits of therapy are: feel better about yourself, think about relationship issues, feel more at peace, feel more connected with the people in your life, reduce stress, work through problems with a skilled and practiced professional and identify goals for living the kind of life you would like to live.
4. More Psychiatric Help
Occasionally, therapy needs to address a deeper syndrome and the addict or alcoholic may have mental health issues. Where a psychologist is schooled in a broader area, a psychiatrist is a medical doctor who specializes in mental health issues. They can diagnose dual disorders, prescribe medication and adjust the medication so that the proper dosage is taken. 12 step programs are in and of them selves, not intended or equipped to help people with mental health issues which is why enlisting the help of a psychiatrist is vital for someone with a dual diagnosis.
5. More Exercise
Regular exercise helps many of the body’s systems function better, aids in weight loss, decreases the risk for certain diseases and helps you live longer. A regular, balanced exercise routine helps those in recovery gain back their physical health, look better and increase self-esteem. A person in recovery can discover a lot about them selves through exercise. Years of putting the disease of addiction first leaves many people wondering what types of activities they are even interested in? Some people find out they love to run marathons, others learn how to snowboard for the first time in sobriety and others like to hike or join a tennis club. Exercise increases a sense of happiness and wellbeing.
6. More Writing/Processing Your Thoughts
Many addicts and alcoholics are encouraged to journal their thoughts and feelings from the very first days of recovery. Putting pen to paper can take the charge out of angry emotions and stop us before we share them with others. We have found that writing defuses our anger and hurt feelings and allows us a safe space to express ourselves without hurting someone else. We find that when we return to the writing the next day or a few days later, the angry feelings have subsided and we’re relieved we did not share them with our loved ones. This is an incredibly useful tool as it also gives someone the ability to chart their progress throughout sobriety when they reflect back on earlier entries.
7. More Support Groups
There is a support group now for every ailment possible. Once the alcohol and drugs are removed, the addict is left with his or her personality. Whether someone clashes with people, has a gambling addiction, is a sex and love addict or co-dependent to the bone, there is a support group that can help. Rarely is anyone just a substance abuser. Drugs and alcohol were simply the solution to deeper issues and when removed, those will rise to the surface. Discovering the reasons you drank and accepting specific support is the best way to move forward and give yourself every opportunity to succeed.
8. More Personal Growth
Whether you fear being 100% honest with someone whose opinion of you, you either value or are afraid of, attending a lecture, a nice dinner or concert solo or being courageous to do the thing that scares you the most, addressing fear is one of the greatest tools for personal growth in recovery. Addicts and alcoholics have been living a fear-based existence. We are either bullying or cowering but seldom have we honestly addressed fear face-to-face and pushed through to the other side. This is a courageous road to travel. Those who decide that they are tired of letting fear rule their lives, and are willing to fail, be embarrassed or look stupid, and still do what they are afraid of are amazing examples of living a recovered life. When someone can stand in the midst of feeling uncomfortable and keep going even when they do fail, they have in fact, succeeded.
9. More Healthy Habits
Healthy habits generate a healthy mindset. Sobriety is much more than not drinking or using, sober is being clear headed in all that we do. Are we lying to ourselves? Are we still lying to others, even though they may not know? Are we stopping at the stop sign even when it’s 2 o’clock in the morning and there isn’t another car or pedestrian in sight? What are we doing when no one is looking? Are we taking more than our fair share? Cutting in line? How we do one thing is how we do everything and in real recovery there can be no shortcuts. We’ve already tried that route and it didn’t work.
10. More Healthy Eating
Addicts and alcoholics have stuffed our feelings with drugs and alcohol, are we doing the same now with food? This is something to pay close attention to. In recovery we begin to notice those times when we are upset and whether we eat sugar or overeat directly after the incident. By paying close attention and being mindful we can use food as it is meant to be used; for nourishment instead of comfort.
11. More Education
What are you interested in learning about? Keeping our minds sharp is a great tool as we evolve in sobriety. Recovery can be a time to go back to school, to attain a degree or a specialty certificate in something we’re interested in. By learning we expand our little sphere and get a glimpse into the greater scheme of life. Learning things that are intellectually stimulating keeps the brain healthy and active for a lifetime, strengthens brain cell networks and helps preserve mental functions that could have been damaged as a result of over exposure to substances. Besides all this, learning keeps you from being bored and from being boring!
12. More Self Esteem Builders
What makes you feel good about yourself? Find that and do it! Is someone in your life always putting you down? It might be time to reevaluate the friendship and see whether it is serving you or draining your self-esteem. Will applying for a different department at work be more in alignment with your skill set and allow you more creativity? Go for it! Whatever you continue to stay involved in, there is a payoff. Choose where you want to put your energy and go where the love is!
The Only Way Out is Through
Most people understand that if they want to become a lawyer they will need to spend many years attending school, studying, taking tests, setting goals, working an internship, passing the bar, working for a partnership and finally becoming a partner. Publishing articles on particular cases, defending a particular type of client, joining a law group or club…all these things are steps to get somewhere and tools to staying current.
Sobriety is no different and there is never an end to be reached or a graduation point. But long-term recovery is an inside job, no one can do it for you, you can’t pay for it or push the pain aside. The cream will always rise to the surface and issues that need to be addressed will pop up, in relationships with loved ones, bosses and strangers, at work, with the law…everywhere. The way to achieve long-term sobriety is by doing the footwork and there are no shortcuts.
The Shiny Promise of a Quick Fix or the Real Gold of Faith
Quick fix solutions focus on short cuts and outside trappings that make the addict feel good immediately, but the payoff dies out quickly too. By taking the long road, knowing that there is no rush to the finish line, by doing the necessary steps to ensure real recovery through using and increasing all the above tools, by having a psychic change sufficient enough to change everything about who you were as a drinking and using person, a sobriety that stands when everything around is falling apart will be yours.
A wise man once said, “Not to advance is in fact to retreat.” Cowardice is harmful because it blocks the ability to experience a true psychic change. Be courageous and forge ahead, despite hardships, then you can savor the true benefit of faith.