Family

Part Two of Our Interview with Jeff Merrick Intervention on a family systems level has given attorney, Jeff Merrick, and the families he serves a second chance at life.  “Sometimes, the most usefulness I have – and it’s the most powerful position I am probably ever in – is to not take a particular case and let that family know that my help might be a contingency that their loved one’s recovery depends on.
Marijuana addiction can start off slow but before you know it, its off and running.  For Pauletta’s son, Kyle, the addiction began sometime during his 11th and 12th grade years of high school.   It had become a ritual for Pauletta and her husband, David, to inspect his bedroom, locate the drugs, the bongs, papers, pipes and throw them all away.  They also performed random drug testing with the mindset that, if Kyle knew they were going to perform random drug testing, then he would stop using.  
Part One Intervention in the old school sense used to rely heavily on tough love.  Families would gather at a pre-designated location and unbeknownst to the addict, surprise him or her with strict words and an ultimatum.  The sole focus was to get the addict into treatment and away from the family.  The more co-dependent a family, the more the need to separate them.  But things have changed – for the better.
I have three sons all in their 20’s, all pretty good kids, all pretty normal except one who suffers from a not so rare disease…. Drug Addiction.  So how did I come to accept the fact that I would no longer be able to drink a beer with my son at a baseball game, or go shoot a game of pool and grab a drink with him? 
Drug abuse aftercare is getting a bum wrap – or is it?  “Funny story – over the last week I’ve had two different people ask me, ‘So, is what you do: telling people when they are ‘acting out’ during their recovery process a ‘Boot Camp method’?”  Mike Joly is bewildered by the misconception that people have about programs like his that emphasize a “Holding-Your-Peers-Accountable” approach. 
Neither Karen nor I were aware of Brian’s drug abuse until I received “the” phone call from school that he was seen smoking dope on campus.  Hindsight being what it is, we now realize that the signs were there but not recognized by either one of us.  Karen thought Brian and his friends wanting massive quantities of snacks at late hours of the night, was growing boys, just being boys.  The smell of incense and other fragrances was the boys exploring other cultures.
I'm writing this narrative explaining my experience with being a dad of a son with a heroin addiction.  For a long time I suspected that my son, Matthew, was on drugs; he looked terrible, was always in a bad mood and never seemed too happy to spend any time with the family. 
The New Life House Recovery Community asked Dr. Martha Koo to discuss the high risk of substance abuse in individuals with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and the importance of early therapeutic intervention.
“Successful intervention” wasn’t on Erin’s mind when she and her husband Paul first started to look for answers to their oldest son’s drug and alcohol addiction. She could barely wrap her head around the fact that Trevor had a problem; so considering the possibility of sending him away for treatment wasn’t even an option.
When I was writing the script of my son’s young life…heroin, addiction, homelessness, were words I never penned. The following is the encapsulation of a 6-year journey towards recovery.